Overcome Your Trauma, Defeat Your Narcissist, Rebuild Your Self-Esteem and Your Self-Worth:

Sarah battled with low self-esteem in her younger years and suffered at the hands of an emotionally abusive husband. Refusing to allow her trauma to dictate her future, she now teaches others the methods she used to rebuild her life, bringing them fulfillment and helping them to fall in love with themselves again.

Quote: Change your beliefs, change yourself, change your life. 

Top 3 Hot Point Takeaways:

1. There is no excuse for accepting domestic abuse.
2. Learn and understand who and what narcissists are.
3. Motivate yourself to free yourself.

Today’s Resource Links from the Podcast:

• facebook.com/sarah.griffiths.16144
• facebook.com/sallygcoaching
• facebook.com/groups/HelpingYouHealAfterTraumaAndAbuse/
• http://www.linkedin.com/in/sarahgriffithssallyg
• http://www.instagram.com/sallygrapidresults
• http://www.pinterest.ca/sallygRTT/
• http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCA98T9QF9P226vP-NcgOV7g*

Our Mentioned Influencers:

Help Free Debbie from Domestic Violence on GoFundMe

Watch us on YouTube:

Timestamped Show Notes:

00:30 – Introduction

10:00 – Shoutout to Debbie living with Domestic Violence and our GoFundMe to support here at bit.ly/freedebbie She’s stuck in her current living situation, Sarah, with the guy who abuses her, not physically, but emotionally, psychologically, on a daily basis. He’s an alcoholic, he’s a drunk and clearly, somebody that I’ve ever met in the real-world since I might put him through a wall.

20:00 – I realized that this was feeding into the existing issues, this was just confirming everything I thought I already knew about myself. The important thing is that I went to see a therapist, this is about four years ago now, who listened to me for a very long time. This was the first person to suggest that aside from my issues with my past, which I hadn’t then dealt with, I was probably dealing with a narcissist.

31:00 – What you see, what society teaches us, is this model of perfection and that we have to be perfect.

40:00 – From there then he’s got to do the work, the realization is just one thing. But then he’s got all of these ingrained behavior patterns that he has to not just do something about, but recognize and uncover, and then do something about. There’s a reason it’s called doing the work, doing the inner work.

50:00 – What we are talking about is motivation, because people will say at the moment, they don’t want you to leave, and they probably don’t want you to leave. Because that would be in your best interest. They’re not thinking about you. They’re thinking I don’t want this person to leave. They’ll see it as a failure in their life, not your life. Then they are thinking wait, I’m failing, because they’re leaving me. That’s gonna disrupt that perfection and some people don’t want you to leave because they’re addicted to the control. If you leave, they’ve lost control.

53:40 – Final Words

Our Final Words of the Show:

I think it’s important for people to understand that they ARE a product of their childhood, but that they don’t have to be who you were or who you were taught you to be. This does not have to define you and your past isn’t your fault. Your future is in your hands.

Action Steps:

Support our 501c-3 non-profit and visit http://fuelfoundations.org

Help us reach more people with 5 Star Reviews, visit iTunes and Submit a Review

Join our private Facebook community The FUEL UP Mindset

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What is a Narcissist, Narcissism, and a Public Service Announcement to Free Debbie from Domestic Abuse and Violence:

Debbie’s own words are below. We want to preface this by saying if we exceed our campaign goal, we will work together to make a donation to a Women’s Shelter, Community Center, or Transitional Housing to be named at a later date. Thank you in advance, your Campaign Advocate ~ Scott Mulvaney. Now here are Debbie’s current life transparency words:

I’m a victim of domestic violence, and I’ve now learned there’s nowhere to turn. With your help, I can avoid being a casualty.

Like most women, I never thought I would be here. Yet I am, I’m living with emotional and verbal abuse, worrying if each day it will turn to physical.

It started slowly. The first time he threatened me, I wrote it off as a mistake. The next time, I blamed myself. Then, I declared it would be the “last time.” It wasn’t. After a while, I stopped bothering to make excuses. The abuse started to feel normal. Recently, things have gotten worse, it’s bad enough now that I have realized I need to run or I will die this way.

He’s a functional alcoholic, who fires off insults and gaslights my every move. While he doesn’t remember what he’s said or done the night before he denies it ever happens and blames it on me. He’s threatened to lock me out, has drawn a fist and aimed it at my face and told me to get the hell out, and take nothing. Everything, to his way of thinking, belongs to him. 30 minutes too long at the grocery and I’ve been with a ‘boyfriend’, and that sets off another round of insults. Nothing is my business, (I’m his wife right?) his health, his finances, nothing. Nothing is shared by him. He has to know the details of every penny I spend. His tossing a beloved pet across the room triggered my breaking point.

I would just leave but I cannot afford to leave everything behind. As a woman of a certain age, it’s hard to recoup financially to be able to start over. Although I have contributed to our household, as well as furniture and household goods that I purchased myself, he says I have no right them. Not even my personal clothes. I have pets that I love and do not want to abandon. I need to escape.

I work, but paying medical bills from a recent surgery has left my coffers drained. (He is my husband, but refuses to pay my medical expenses) He pays toward rent and utilities, part but not full, but the rest of everything is on me. This campaign is to help me get the resources I need to leave quickly and safely, with the goal of raising funds by March 15, 2020.

I’m tired y’all, really tired. I’m scared if I don’t get out now, I won’t, at least not whole anyway.  I hate airing my “dirty laundry” but what I’ve been told is that I’m deserving of help, and this is not my shame, it’s his. I’m asking for help to restart my life where I can live peacefully and without fear.

~ Debbie

Here is the breakdown of the minimum of what I need from the $7300 minimum:

$3K upfront to attorney

$3K for 3 months of living, rent, and utility expenses

$800 movers (can’t lift anything myself due to recent shoulder surgery)

$500 running money

Top 3 Hot Point Takeaways:

1. Develop a supportive circle of trust
2. Create the escape plan
3. Work with law enforcement

Today’s Resource Links from the Podcast:

Go visit our GoFundMe at bit.ly/freedebbie

11 Signs You’re Dating a Narcissist — and How to Get Out go visit https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/am-i-dating-a-narcissist#1

Our Mentioned Influencers:

Tammy Munson of Business & Learning visit businessandlearning.com

Tammy Munson on LinkedIn visit linkedin.com/in/tammymunson

Action Steps:

Support our 501c-3 non-profit and visit http://fuelfoundations.org

Help us reach more people with 5 Star Reviews, visit iTunes and Submit a Review

Join our private Facebook community The FUEL Tank, at https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheFUELTank/

Watch us on YouTube:

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